After being divorced for a while, I met up with an old
flame I’d left 30 years ago. We rekindled our
relationship and eventually married. I knew he’d
cheated on previous partners, but he always
assured me that it was in the past. Then last year,
he started coming home late and claimed he was
too tired for sex.
Shortly afterwards, I was shocked to discover that I
had a sexually transmitted disease - and so had he.
I asked him if he was cheating, but he denied it.
Then I found a woman’s number on his mobile. He
said he had no idea who she was. Although I have
no concrete proof that he’s cheating, I know in my
heart that he is. I just don’t know what to do about
Chika, by e-mail.
I think you know in your heart of hearts that your
husband is cheating. Even worse, he’s risking your
health. It’s widely believed that once a man cheats,
he will cheat again. I can’t tell you what to do now
but be rest assured that being on your own isn’t as
bad as you might think. An innocent partner would
be outraged if he had an infection he knew nothing
of and I’m sure he would have kept quiet of his
disease if you hadn’t mention it.
Seek counselling if you must. Your peace of mind is
more important than a relationship without trust.